How Can I Become a Better Role Model?
I’m not a superstar, an athlete, or even a famous person. I’m not a millionaire or as smart as Einstein. We may not have even met before. But you don’t have to be a superstar or famous to be a true role model. Sure, we sometimes look to the famous as heroes. But, not all superstars, athletes or famous people are good role models.
A true role model is someone others look up to and want to be like, because they have integrity, high values and are optimistic and compassionate. They are determined to show up as their best selves no matter what is going on in their lives. They’re clear about what is important, and will make a positive difference in another’s life.
What Makes a Good Role Model?
There are different kinds of role models – and not all are showing up as honest and authentic – or even living fulfilled and happy lives. Looking up to someone as a hero even though they are living a morbid and unhealthy lifestyle is not looking to them as a “good role model.” On the surface they appear to be living well – fancy house, hot car, lots of money – but they may actually be miserable, and feeling out of control or dissatisfied with their life choices.
Who do you influence?
We influence people every day! Our children, friends and co-workers may look to us for guidance and connection. Are we showing up as our best self? Are we greeting them by being present, engaged and caring? Are we looked to as a leader? We influence others by showing that we are committed to high ethical standards and by sharing our values. This is the power that attracts others to us, because they see us as their role model.
Being a role model to others presents us with the obligation to make sure we are aligning with our values. We need to keep checking ourselves to assure that we are showing up as our best selves. Our children, friends, neighbors and co-workers watch everything we do. Are we consistently living up to our values? Are we demonstrating care, compassion and self-confidence to all those we connect with? If our answer is yes, we are being a role model!
Our world today needs more role models! It doesn’t matter where they come from – their age, background, or education. These assets don’t qualify one person over another to be a better as a role model. Anyone can be a role model!
So, who looks to you as their role model?
Diana Gillig, CHPC
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