Diana's Latest Thoughts & Ideas
Do you go through the annual episode of buying the perfect gifts to give to each family member and friend? It just has to be perfect!
If you’re like me – this decision can take hours, or even days. What will they like? What do they want? It just has to be special!
This year is no different!
As the Holidays quickly approach, I was, again thinking about what gifts to buy. Of course, the first thing that comes to mind is toys and electronics that the kids are wishing for. They always have a long list for me to choose from, so it’s usually easy to decide what to give each one of them.
While going through each list I wondered: “What is the most special gift of all that I could give?” Toys keep their interest and excitement for a while, but in time the enjoyment fades, and then the toys end up on a shelf. And, I think everyone has experienced the disappointment of a child when they open up a box that has clothes in it. They give you that look that says ...
What comes to mind when you think about contribution?
Do you think of it as donating clothes and household items, giving money to a charity, or supplying food for those in need? Contributions such as these are always needed and appreciated by the receivers.
In the middle of preparing for a move – cleaning out closets to donate things I no longer use, I thought about: “What am I contributing?” Am I just contributing stuff? Is providing items that others may want or need enough? Offering things that supply others’ needs can make a significant difference. And, there’s no question that it makes us feel great having cleaned out closets and cupboards. It’s a wonderful feeling of accomplishment!
And, there’s more!
What about our daily contributions? How do we contribute each and every day?
We are making contributions every day – giving of ourselves while playing with the kids, friendly words to the people we talk to in the grocery store or...
How do we feel Joy? Does it show up in our lives every day? Are we waiting for something to happen to have a reason to be joyful?
Being joyful doesn’t happen because of an event or an occurrence. If we wait for something to happen to bring happiness or joy to us, we may have a long wait. Joy isn’t something we find. It’s within each one of us.
How can we be joyful today? Now? There’s a difference in waiting for joy and living in joy! Waiting for something wonderful to happen so we can find joy leaves us looking for the next shiny object that we believe will bring us joy. When we reach for that shiny object, we find that pleasure is short-lived. Then, we are off looking for the next shiny object. Our search for joy is based on things or circumstances that bring a false sense of joy.
True joy comes from the heart. We find happiness in the things we see and do each day. Joy is a central part of our life and is expressed in everything we do. We have a more...
How often do you find yourself thinking about events of the past?
Do you find yourself re-living experiences of mistakes, feelings of guilt, misunderstandings and old hurts from the past?
When we dwell on these old experiences, and question the actions that were taken, we may find ourselves re-living them. Some experiences were disagreements with others, and some were things that we regret. We think to ourselves, “I should have done. . .”
Now, we have reopened painful wounds and embarrassments of the past. We may have a sense of fear that some of these scenes will repeat in our future.
This may sound absurd! How many times do we think about bad experiences from our past? We dwell on the wrong choices or decisions we made, or relive hurt and anguish that we believe was caused by someone else?
Not allowing ourselves to be forgiving to ourselves and others brings bitterness and anger into our experiences of today. Our relationships all seem to be crumbling and we are...
How Can I Become a Better Role Model?
I’m not a superstar, an athlete, or even a famous person. I’m not a millionaire or as smart as Einstein. We may not have even met before. But you don’t have to be a superstar or famous to be a true role model. Sure, we sometimes look to the famous as heroes. But, not all superstars, athletes or famous people are good role models.
A true role model is someone others look up to and want to be like, because they have integrity, high values and are optimistic and compassionate. They are determined to show up as their best selves no matter what is going on in their lives. They’re clear about what is important, and will make a positive difference in another’s life.
What Makes a Good Role Model?
There are different kinds of role models – and not all are showing up as honest and authentic – or even living fulfilled and happy lives. Looking up to someone as a hero even though they are living a morbid and...
How do you handle anger?
Have you ever felt hurt, angry or hateful towards someone or something? You tried to overlook the things that they said or did to you, but you still felt resentment - and maybe for the moment – loathing toward them! “How dare they say that to me! Who do they think they are?” It may or may not have been intentional, or it may have simply been a misunderstanding. You just know that it made you angry! You find yourself dwelling on it over and over.
The more we dwell on a bad situation or event in our life, the more distressed over it we become. Even an insignificant oversight can grow out of proportion until we believe it was a huge injustice. As or grows, our distress shows up in our facial expressions and the way we stand or carry ourselves. It even effects communications with others. Before we know it – we are not only miserable about the little things happening around us, but now people are going out of their way to avoid us. ...
It’s Monday morning, and Friday seems so far away! How am I going to get through the week?
It was an amazing weekend! You slept in on Saturday. The party with friends by the lake was great. You even completed a couple of home projects that you are really proud of. But, now – it’s over!
Monday has gotten such a bad name!
We drag ourselves out of bed - it’s the beginning of the work week. You start your Monday with a sigh and thoughts of the drudgery ahead take over. “Monday’s are such a drag.”
But what if you change YOUR thoughts?
You’re excited its Monday! It’s the beginning of a week of new ideas; new projects; new discoveries! You’re enthusiastic; excited to get the week started. It’s time to put our geniuses to work!
Whether Monday is a reminder to you that you are doing something that you don’t...
It’s just another day!
I jump out of bed ready to start another day, pour the coffee, and go about the usual morning tasks like a programmed robot. I wasn’t really thinking about anything in particular. This is how mornings typically begin! Then I’m off on my day, facing chores and tasks that have been scheduled on my calendar.
Each morning I think of something I am grateful for – a typical morning, also robotic. Then one morning – lost in my typical routine – a thought came through like a lightening strike. Am I truly grateful?
I listened to many webinars on YouTube, read books and heard so much about acknowledgment of being grateful. I felt that I was grateful – grateful for another day. Grateful for coffee, and that it’s another sunny day.
But, on this day, the question “Are you grateful?” broke through my morning doldrum, and came to me so abruptly that it...
How do I overcome roadblocks? What's stopping me?
Have you ever felt that you are on a treadmill? You keep reaching for the next goal. It's in reach, but you hit a snag. You are being held back. You feel that you have lost your momentum. Your motivation and energy are gone.
On our journey to reaching our dreams we all hit times where something seems to be holding us back. Maybe it’s a limiting belief we grew up with; or something someone said, or, maybe it’s just self-doubt keeping us from reaching the next level on our way to fulfilling that dream.
I was there! After leaving a career in a specialized field I felt a sense of uselessness. I didn’t know what I wanted to do next and at the same time I felt a strong desire to make an impact on the world – to give back. But how? I felt I had nothing that the world would want. My skill set was specialized, and I didn’t really want to dive back into the 9-5 world where my daily life was...
Have you found your passion in life? Do you jump out of bed each morning with excitement as you greet the new day?
You have what you want - great job, nice home, dependable car. No bells or whistles! You’re just living a content life. Days turn into weeks and weeks into months. No guessing; no life challenges. You don’t even have to take scary risks! You always know what is coming next. We call this “living safe!”
You’re asking “What’s wrong with living safe?
Living a life without challenge is fine for some. But not you!
You are a high performer and look for challenges that take you to your next level of success. You take on opportunities to grow and reach the goals before you.
It all starts with that nudge – a poke a voice! It’s your inner voice speaking up from deep in your mind. It asks you: What accomplishments have I done in my life? Have I allowed myself to live? Am I truly happy?